What is your worth based on?

Ever felt like that you are not making a jolt bit of difference in the world? Everyday your working really hard for the Kingdom of God to breakthrough but you don’t see any fruit. Over the last week I have heard a couple of people state that because their ministry is not growing compared to the perceived favour they see in others, then the only conclusion is that they cannot be loved by God. Now I think this is really important to explore a little further because this mindset harms people. Let us look at what Paul says in the book of Timothy.

1 Timothy 1:5 “The goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith.”

I think it is always helpful to see what we can learn from the trials and tribulations in our lives, and allow them to reveal wrong goals that we may have in our hearts and minds.  It’s during these times of pressures that your emotions raise their warning flags signalling blocked goals, uncertain goals, and impossible goals which are based on our desires instead of God’s goal of proven character.

Paul says in this scripture ‘The goal of our instruction is love.’  If you make that your goal, then the fruit of the Spirit is love, Joy (instead of depression), peace (instead of anxiety) and patience (instead of anger).

What is your worth based on?

  • Is it based on a goal to win over the community for Christ?
  • Have the best youth ministry in the town?
  • Put in as many hours as possible for the Kingdom?
  • Increase your giving by 50%?
These are all worthwhile desires, but they are poor goals by which to determine our worth, because they can be blocked by people or circumstances. Better still our goal should be the person who God wants us to be. That is a great goal because nothing can block you from achieving it.
God’s basic goal for your life is character development, becoming the person God wants you to be. Because it’s a Godly goal, no one can block it accept you.


When we love we achieve

For much of my life I have been taught and strived to make something of my life. What did that actually mean? It meant to put me first, to achieve goals that would better MY life.  Those achievements included earning as much money as possible so I could look good amongst my peers and showing that I had a position and status in life. This may sound familiar to many of you reading this blog today. The scary realisation of all this is that as I strived for worldly achievements, it was at the expense of my relationships.

The bible thankfully turns worldly thinking on its head and God commands us to value relationships over everything else. Jesus declared that the two greatest commandments are to love God and love people (Matthew 22:36-40). The purpose of the Word of God is to govern our relationships with God and our neighbour. If our achievements in life don’t enhance our relations with most importantly God and then our family and neighbour, then we are not fulfilling God’s commandments and being the people God wants us to be.

Security comes from relationships, not achievements

A secure person is a person who is comfortable with himself and others. Many people strive up the corporate ladder, to please their peers before they please God, because they believe worldly achievements will make them more secure in an insecure world.  Would you rather be a lover of people or an achiever for oneself? God so wants us to understand this truth, because he knows that when we adopt it into our everyday lifestyle and putting relationships first, our desire to be more like Jesus will grow with every passing day.

Romans 13:8 “Owe nothing to anyone except to love one another; for he who loves his neighbour has fulfilled the law”

I often consider after a day’s work whether I do a reasonable competent job, with a heart of love? Do I just go through the motions or do I display the loving characteristics of Christ? More times than not I believe I do a professional job, without actually loving. Then God draws me to scriptures such as this one from Romans 13.

Anyone, including my good self, who accomplishes something at the expense of people, or elevates tasks over relationships will sow the seeds of their own destruction and the destruction of those around them.

Let us be Kingdom builders, that start with our own hearts. Let us remember that Godly achievements are all about loving relationships first. Let us remember that relationships are more important than achievements.

When we love we have achieved

Prayer: Lord help me today to love people and use things, and not to love things and use people.

Seeing with God’s eyes

How we see other people determines our relationship with those people. Read Matthew 7:3-4. It is so easy to point out someone’s faults and mistakes, but is so much harder to come to terms with our own shortcomings.

It is from this position of humility and understanding that truly determines healthy relationships. Remember a healthy relationship always starts with you.

Who we are determines how we see others

The way people see others is a reflection of themselves

  • If I am critical I see others as critical
  • If I don’t care for people I see others who don’t care
  • If I live with a humble spirit I see others with humility
In some circles this is called the Lens Principle. When people look at us reflects our relationship with them. As Jesus put it, when we start removing the plank from our own eyes first, we start looking at people through God’s eyes. 
You cannot separate the way you see yourself from healthy relationships. The importance of seeing other people in a positive light also impacts how they turn out as people. This is so true for a loving discipleship, because a Jesus centred positive attitude breads a positive attitude to those we are discipling.
I believe Jesus has called every single one of us to firstly have a positive attitude towards ourselves and secondly to have a positive loving attitude to others. When we put on God’s eyes we see ourselves in a different light; made in the image of Christ himself. When we look out into the world with God’s eyes we see the potential ready to be fulfilled. I will leave you with a couple of questions to meditate over and to be challenged.
  •  Are you a negative or positive person?
  • What is your perception of others?